No matter where your day falls on the calendar, there is so much to think about when planning your big day. COVID-19 came quickly and suddenly, leaving all of us in a state of worry and wonder. Planning a wedding or elopement during these uncertain times can add to the stress and leave you wondering what you should do? Should you cancel your wedding? Should you postpone the date?
First things first. BREATHE. Yes, this is a very stressful time. It’s ok to be worried. It’s completely normal. But if you don’t take the time to stop, breathe and relax, it will become more stressful than it really needs to be. Keep calm.
Consider your options. Grab a pen and paper, sit down with your partner and discuss ideas and alternatives. Deciding if you need to postpone or cancel your wedding is not an easy decision to make. Make sure that you are both on the same page and happy with whatever decision you choose. I recommend postponing your wedding rather than cancelling. Wedding vendors are aware of these circumstances that are out of your control. Vendors are happy and willing to work with you. Plus, you may be losing out on money since most vendor deposits are non-refundable. To give some peace of mind in rescheduling with me, any monies down will be transferred to the new date, with no extra cost to you.
Some options to consider are to downsize or even elope. Trimming your guest list and having a more intimate wedding could help to ease some of the stress of planning with the limits of social distance gatherings by keeping the guest list under 50 people.
Eloping is a great way to eliminate a guest list all together. You can find a quiet, remote little area. Maybe a favorite spot the two of you enjoy together and like to visit. This will allow for you and your partner to be more relaxed, focus on each other, and not worry about being in too close of contact with others. You can always live stream the elopement for those that are closest to you and have a reception at a later date to celebrate with friends and family.
You may be worried about upsetting our guests by changing the date, trimming the guest list, or eloping with just the two of you. Don’t be. Your friends and family will understand. They want you to be happy, and stay healthy. Remember, it’s YOUR wedding. Do what makes the two of you happy.
After considering your options, contact your vendors. Be flexible with your date. Some of your vendors may already have bookings well into the future. Please be patient and flexible. If your vendor is unable to accommodate your new date options, they will be happy to help you find someone who can. We are all here to work with you and want you to have the happiest day of your life.
This crisis will end in time. Stay positive and keep your focus. We are all in this crazy thing together. If you need guidance in any way, or even just someone to remind you that everything is going to be OK, please reach out!